The practice of giving, ethics, and meditation can undo the confusing experience of being a separate individual person, as we attune more fully to the nature of the way things are.
Ayya Anandabodhi reflects on applying the Four Noble Truths while caring for her elderly mother. The mention of "surrender" in this talk refers to putting one's hands in the air in a surrender position as a response to noticing one is getting contracted or holding on to a position or a view.